A Curious Question #13: If you had a month with no obligations, how would you spend your time?

The road and the radio

Every so often, I meet someone on a dating app who’s as curious as I am. Last month, I met such a person and he asked me the question posed above. I think it’s such a great question to help get to know someone better.

After I finished my yippy skippy no-obligations-for-a-month dance, I settled down and gave it some thought. It didn’t take long for me to decide I’d use the time to take a road trip. There are so many spots in the US I’d love to visit and getting there by road is my favorite mode of transportation.

The slower pace, changing landscape, local foods and the people you meet along the way make the journey to a new destination so much more satisfying and fun.

How about you? If you had a month with no obligations, how would you spend your time?

A Curious Question #12: What’s your favorite part of spring?

April 2020

One of the things I love about living in Minnesota is the change of seasons. Each one has a different energy and aspect to appreciate. The rhythm and cycle of the seasons help me feel connected to the earth and to nature. They keep me grounded.

Although parts of the country have had some crazy weather this year, we’ve had a particularly mild winter and it looks like the forecast for the next week or so will be quite warm. As I flip my calendar page to March and feel the shift in seasons approaching, my thoughts turn to what I love most about spring.

While I enjoy all the seasons, spring is my favorite. The energy of aliveness that awakens after the barren winter is contagious.

What makes me smile the most is when all the trees begin to sprout their leaves. Seeing that oh-so-brief and beautiful stubble of chartreuse green on a sea of branches brings me such joy. It’s one of my favorite colors.

So I ask you, dear readers. What’s your favorite part of spring? As always, I welcome your thoughts and words.

A Curious Question #11: Why do you write?

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I heard an interview once with the wife of Dr. Seuss and she shared something that surprised me. She said that he didn’t write for others. He wrote for himself. If people liked what he wrote, so be it! But that wasn’t the reason he wrote.

I try to follow this example.

I write for myself.

I write from the heart.

I write what I like to read.

Still, there’s a small part of me that hopes what I write will resonate with someone. I find it’s a nice way to connect with people. So mostly I write for myself, but there’s a small seed inside me looking to grow blogging relationships and to bond with others too.

So dear readers, why do you write? That seed of growing connections along with my intense curiosity would love to know. I welcome you responses!

My Advice to a Newly Engaged Man? Never Stop Dating Each Other

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There’s a younger man in my office who recently became engaged. He met his now-fiancé in high school and had been dating her for the past 12+ years. When he told me he had proposed, I congratulated him then asked if he’d like a little piece of advice. 

“Of course,” he replied.

I said, “Never stop dating each other.”

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A Curious Question #10: What’s your word for this year?

At the beginning of every year, a dear friend of mine picks her word for the year. It may be a word that represents what she wants to focus on for the year or how she wants to show up.

I love this idea and for last few years I’ve chosen a word for the year as well. One year it was Release, another year it was Trust.

As this new year dawned, I began pondering what my word for this year would be. I think I’ve settled on Explore. I’d like to continue my inner world exploration through meditation and add outer world exploration as well. This can take the form of exploring a new place in the great outdoors or exploring a new idea or activity.

So today I ask you to ponder the same question: What’s your word for this year?

As always, I’d love to hear your responses.

A Curious Question #7: What’s your favorite part of the Holiday Season?

There are so many things I love about the holiday season. One of my favorites is the way the season sparkles with lights. Since darkness comes so much earlier this time of year, it’s a joy to see so many homes and trees illuminated in a bright celebration. They bring to mind this verse of “Silent Night”:

“Son of God, love’s pure light
Radiant beams from Thy holy face
With the dawn of redeeming grace”

These lights are like joy, hope, grace and peace all wrapped up in a little twinkling bulb. Kinda like the babe himself, twinkling in a manger.

So what’s your favorite part of the holiday season?

A Curious Question #6: How are you making Christmas feel like Christmas this year?

I don’t know about you, but Thanksgiving felt like a non-event this year. I usually spend it with a house full of family, all of whom are amazing cooks. There’s always a buzz of activity along with great food and spirited conversation. This year, it was just me and my two sons. And although we had a nice conversation around the table and made a few of our favorite dishes, it just wasn’t the same. Thanksgiving didn’t feel like Thanksgiving.

Because of this, I’m feeling the need to make sure Christmas feels like Christmas. And I think lots of other people are feeling the same way I do.

Here’s why.

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Three Things For Practicing Presence In Our Relationships

Lately, I’ve been trying to practice being in the present moment. I’m learning to accept and be present with both the comfortable and uncomfortable things in my life. This week, I discovered the importance of not only practicing this with myself, but also in my relationships with other people as well.

Here’s what happened.

My dear sister called and was very upset about something happening in her life. I wanted to soothe her and make the pain go away. My mind was racing trying to think of what to say and how to help and I spouted out a few suggestions.

And then she said, “I don’t need you to fix this. I just need you to listen.” 

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A Curious Question #5: What’s The Color Of Your Life Right Now?

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Every once in awhile, I come across a thought provoking bio on the dating app I use. Recently, I matched with someone who wrote,

 “There is so much more to life than the limited perspective that things must be black or white. I want to embrace the grey and all the other colors of life.”

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