Just Stop

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I’m having a difficult time with the word “just”. Or to be more precise, all the words that often follow the word “just”.

When I lament that I’m weary of waiting for Mr. Right to show up, someone will say,

“Just be patient!”
“Just put yourself out there!”
“Just get out and do what you love!”

I’ve “just” done all those things and he still hasn’t magically appeared. Well, maybe I haven’t been patient enough, but I have put myself out there, wherever out there is. I’m doing what I love.

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A Curious Question #13: If you had a month with no obligations, how would you spend your time?

The road and the radio

Every so often, I meet someone on a dating app who’s as curious as I am. Last month, I met such a person and he asked me the question posed above. I think it’s such a great question to help get to know someone better.

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The Wisdom Of Luna Lovegood

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Luna Lovegood is my new role model.

My son and I have spent the last few weekends re-watching all the Harry Potter movies. As often happens when I re-watch a movie or reread a book, there’ll be someone or something that stands out in a new way. Life experiences often bring about a new frame of reference and something I didn’t understand before will now make sense.

As Brian McLaren says.Some things simply can’t be seen from where I am right now. But if I keep growing, maturing, and developing, someday I will be able to see what is now inaccessible to me. ” 

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Sometimes Love Arrives in Packages We Aren’t Expecting

My son Wyatt

My sister recently shared an email with me that was from a consultant she follows named Ritu. In the email, Ritu talks about reframing our thoughts on love and the different ways it may show up in our lives. She included a quote from Bishop Jakes that went something like this:

“We expect to find the love we want in the packages we want it to be in. But the Universe sends us the love we need, often in packages we might not expect.”

It was a timely email to read because I’ve been thinking lately about sharing how love arrived on my doorstep last fall in a package I hadn’t been expecting.

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My Advice to a Newly Engaged Man? Never Stop Dating Each Other

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There’s a younger man in my office who recently became engaged. He met his now-fiancé in high school and had been dating her for the past 12+ years. When he told me he had proposed, I congratulated him then asked if he’d like a little piece of advice. 

“Of course,” he replied.

I said, “Never stop dating each other.”

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