A Curious Question #13: If you had a month with no obligations, how would you spend your time?

The road and the radio

Every so often, I meet someone on a dating app who’s as curious as I am. Last month, I met such a person and he asked me the question posed above. I think it’s such a great question to help get to know someone better.

After I finished my yippy skippy no-obligations-for-a-month dance, I settled down and gave it some thought. It didn’t take long for me to decide I’d use the time to take a road trip. There are so many spots in the US I’d love to visit and getting there by road is my favorite mode of transportation.

The slower pace, changing landscape, local foods and the people you meet along the way make the journey to a new destination so much more satisfying and fun.

How about you? If you had a month with no obligations, how would you spend your time?

The Wisdom Of Luna Lovegood

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Luna Lovegood is my new role model.

My son and I have spent the last few weekends re-watching all the Harry Potter movies. As often happens when I re-watch a movie or reread a book, there’ll be someone or something that stands out in a new way. Life experiences often bring about a new frame of reference and something I didn’t understand before will now make sense.

As Brian McLaren says.Some things simply can’t be seen from where I am right now. But if I keep growing, maturing, and developing, someday I will be able to see what is now inaccessible to me. ” 

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A Curious Question #12: What’s your favorite part of spring?

April 2020

One of the things I love about living in Minnesota is the change of seasons. Each one has a different energy and aspect to appreciate. The rhythm and cycle of the seasons help me feel connected to the earth and to nature. They keep me grounded.

Although parts of the country have had some crazy weather this year, we’ve had a particularly mild winter and it looks like the forecast for the next week or so will be quite warm. As I flip my calendar page to March and feel the shift in seasons approaching, my thoughts turn to what I love most about spring.

While I enjoy all the seasons, spring is my favorite. The energy of aliveness that awakens after the barren winter is contagious.

What makes me smile the most is when all the trees begin to sprout their leaves. Seeing that oh-so-brief and beautiful stubble of chartreuse green on a sea of branches brings me such joy. It’s one of my favorite colors.

So I ask you, dear readers. What’s your favorite part of spring? As always, I welcome your thoughts and words.

A Curious Question #11: Why do you write?

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I heard an interview once with the wife of Dr. Seuss and she shared something that surprised me. She said that he didn’t write for others. He wrote for himself. If people liked what he wrote, so be it! But that wasn’t the reason he wrote.

I try to follow this example.

I write for myself.

I write from the heart.

I write what I like to read.

Still, there’s a small part of me that hopes what I write will resonate with someone. I find it’s a nice way to connect with people. So mostly I write for myself, but there’s a small seed inside me looking to grow blogging relationships and to bond with others too.

So dear readers, why do you write? That seed of growing connections along with my intense curiosity would love to know. I welcome you responses!

Sometimes Love Arrives in Packages We Aren’t Expecting

My son Wyatt

My sister recently shared an email with me that was from a consultant she follows named Ritu. In the email, Ritu talks about reframing our thoughts on love and the different ways it may show up in our lives. She included a quote from Bishop Jakes that went something like this:

“We expect to find the love we want in the packages we want it to be in. But the Universe sends us the love we need, often in packages we might not expect.”

It was a timely email to read because I’ve been thinking lately about sharing how love arrived on my doorstep last fall in a package I hadn’t been expecting.

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My Advice to a Newly Engaged Man? Never Stop Dating Each Other

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There’s a younger man in my office who recently became engaged. He met his now-fiancé in high school and had been dating her for the past 12+ years. When he told me he had proposed, I congratulated him then asked if he’d like a little piece of advice. 

“Of course,” he replied.

I said, “Never stop dating each other.”

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Living a Cling-Free Life

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Recently, I discovered a parable shared by Thich Nhat Hanh in his book How To Relax. It goes something like this: 

“The Buddha was having a silent lunch with his monks in the woods.  A farmer came hurrying by and asked if they had seen his cows, which had left him that morning. It appeared the farmer was suffering greatly. The Buddha, upon seeing how distraught the farmer was, compassionately told the farmer they had not seen his cows.  Once the farmer left, the Buddha turned to his monks and said, “Dear monks, you are very lucky.  You don’t have any cows to lose.”

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A Curious Question #10: What’s your word for this year?

At the beginning of every year, a dear friend of mine picks her word for the year. It may be a word that represents what she wants to focus on for the year or how she wants to show up.

I love this idea and for last few years I’ve chosen a word for the year as well. One year it was Release, another year it was Trust.

As this new year dawned, I began pondering what my word for this year would be. I think I’ve settled on Explore. I’d like to continue my inner world exploration through meditation and add outer world exploration as well. This can take the form of exploring a new place in the great outdoors or exploring a new idea or activity.

So today I ask you to ponder the same question: What’s your word for this year?

As always, I’d love to hear your responses.

Relationships Aren’t Made. They’re Grown.

In Parker Palmer’s book, Let Your Life Speak, he talks about how we use the word “make” a lot. We use it when we talk about making friends, babies, and love. But in order for these things to be healthy, we need to be growing them instead. We need to be growing friends, babies, and love. That’s how real development happens.

The same is true for our relationships. Healthy relationships aren’t made. They’re grown. Kute Blackson writes,

“The real purpose of a relationship is about two people coming together to serve the growth and evolution of each other’s soul.”

A healthy relationship is like a plant. It can become stagnant, wilt, or die when we fail to take care of it. Like a plant, our relationships need the following things to be healthy and grow:

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